What is the TAILR℠ Method?

The first step to creating lasting change is turning inward.

Why?

When we come from patterns of prolonged stress and/or past trauma, we have an outsized external focus.

We lose touch with the thoughts, feelings, and degree of feeling that keep us healthy, balanced, intuitive, focused, motivated, and pain-free. To name a few.

Example:

When trying to leave our comfort zone, our thoughts can tell us not to make a move (indecision, avoidance), because our nervous system misread feelings of discomfort as a “threat” rather than an opportunity for growth.

Learning to both notice and recognize those subtle “internal temperature readings” and what they’re really trying to tell us is mandatory to maintaining control in high-pressure situations.

After we’re more adept at sensing our “internal temperature” and what it’s telling us, we can now adjust our “thermostat.”

Meaning?

Need more motivation? Check. We can light a fire under our own @$%.

Feeling frustrated? Anxious? Check. We can turn down to keep calm and get the work done.

We can only “adjust” if we recognize our temp in the first place. We must be able to “tune in” even under stress.

(When we can’t, we’re more apt to fly off the handle, plateau, or have a hard time figuring out our best next moves.)

Once we can stay reasonably clearheaded under stress (instead of distracted, hot-headed, or paralyzed), we can audit our internal/external framework.

Basically, inspect and overhaul our belief systems.

At this stage, we have the calm, focus, and clarity to assess where we are, and why—without getting too caught up in emotions.

We can examine our perspectives, habits, thoughts, behaviors, and more to understand what needs changing.

We can change it because we can now recognize subtle problems before they become big ones (we’re Tuned in).

And doing so doesn’t feel too painful or difficult (we’ve learned to Adjust our responses).

Here’s where it gets fun.

After inspecting framework and pinpointing top areas for change, we can liberate ourselves from patterns we may not have even realized were slowing us down or holding us back.

We can start unblocking intuition more easily.

We can choose (or reconnect with) our purpose, since we feel less guilty focusing on our needs over others at times.

Our passion gets sparked naturally in daily life, since we’re no longer in survival mode.

In this stage, we’re following our inner drive and remembering (or deciding) WHY we love the work we do. (Or what we should do to reconnect with that love.)